No, I didn’t say fight with your stepkids…that just comes naturally (ha). I said fight for them. See, no offense meant toward our husbands, but many divorced spouses fight with each other, against each other, but not for their kids. Sure, they fight for time. They fight for the right to move, for money, and for holiday breaks. Now, my husband is a veritable saint when it comes to doing what’s best for his kids. But even he gets worn out some days and forgets what he’s fighting for: their hearts.
Do you know what one of the the best battle positions is, stepmomma? On your knees. Pray for those kids. Fight for them in the best way possible. I don’t know about you, but that’s hard for me. I want to jump into the heat of things; make a point, win the argument, and stand up for my man. But you know what? I don’t believe that’s what God calls me to most days. I don’t need to be right, or to be heard: I need Him to be heard. I need God to fight the battle, and win the day.
You won’t fight this battle. Instead, take your position, stand still, and see the victory of the Lord for you. – 2 Chronicles 20:17
Part of being a warrior for my stepfamily is knowing when to act and when to be still. God calls us to fight for our stepkids, to bridge the gap between two parents and two homes. We are called to battle in the spirit and help our stepkids hear God for themselves. I want my stepkids to find their identity in who God says they are, to follow the path that He has for their life, and to know that they can be wholly known and wholly loved. That, sweet stepmommas, is the absolute best gift and legacy we can leave them.