I took an overnight trip to Austin this week, 36 hours to get my head on straight. I’ve been legitimately off the reservation (electronically speaking) for the past few weeks, packing up one house and moving into another. As I drove through the town that holds so much history for our stepfamily, the hard memories surfaced right alongside the great ones. Times where I white-knuckled it, where I held onto to God and His promises for dear life. It was touch-and-go for a while, but we made it. It’s a funny thing, now: I look back and the hopelessness that I felt has been replaced with a kind of fearlessness, a “let’s do this, God’s got this” attitude that has gotten me through even this most recent season.
Are you in this season? Are you struggling to see your stepfamily’s future, or worse, the only future you see is full of heartache? Can I encourage you today? I warn you: this isn’t going to be one of those sunshine and unicorns and rainbows posts. More like strap on those combat boots, dig some trenches, and get your head in the game.
We pray that you’ll have the strength to stick it out over the long haul – not the grim strength of gritting your teeth but the glory-strength God gives. – Colossians 1:11
- Keep going. This may seem obvious, but hear me out: when the going gets ridiculous, I want to crawl under my covers and hide. Or wallow with some pizza and ice cream. But we can’t check out; our husbands and (step)kids need us. (I’m not talking about “taking a step back” – that’s a separate conversation for another day.) You are going to have to dig deep in this season. Hold onto to what you know to be true about God, about His character – even when your circumstances (and the enemy) tell you otherwise.
- Keep praying. I often tell my small group that it’s hardest to move forward when you can’t see where God’s taking you. Whether your stepfamily’s future is cloudy, or just not what you had in mind, keep talking to God. He’ll either give you revelation, or peace enough to keep going.
- Keep your eyes on Jesus. Hebrews 12:2 reminds us that Jesus is the perfect example. He never lost sight of God’s plan, or His promises. Posture is important. When you’re focused on your circumstances, it’s hard to see God’s hand in them. When your stepfamily takes an unexpected detour (or seeminngly implodes!) remember that He’s bigger than your situation or your pain.
God’s got this, stepmomma. Even if you don’t see it, believe it. He has spoken promises over you, daughter, and you can stand on them.