Bedtimes were a family affair when my stepson was younger, but now that he’s almost an adult, he is usually busy with his own things at night. Still, I make a point to check in with him before bed. A few weeks ago, he was caught up in a video game and pretty much ignored me when I told him goodnight. I was frustrated but fought the urge to lecture him and headed to bed. A few minutes later, there was a knock at our bedroom door. My stepson comes into the room to give me a hug – and tell me goodnight! No prompting, no guilt trip – just the fruit of modeling for him what love (and respect) looks like.
Stepmom-hood can be disheartening. It is a thankless job much of the time. Have you ever wondered if what you say and what you do even matters? Can I speak straight to your stepmomma’s heart and tell you that it really does?
“So let’s not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time, we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don’t give up.” – Galatians 6:9
You may not see the fruit of it today, or tomorrow, or even a year from now. But every kind word, every pick up and drop off, every hot meal, every listening ear and shoulder to cry on, every time you don’t lose your mind when your stepkid rolls his/her eyes…it matters. Most importantly, it matters to God. He is smack dab in the middle of this season with you. Don’t lose heart! He has such good things for you, and for your stepfamily.